When you have six sisters, deciding what to do about bridesmaids isn’t fun. I’ve agonised and agonised over whether to even include them in the bridal party at all. When my friend got married, she had just two bridesmaids and I thought that looked lovely but that would never be possible if I included my sisters. No way could I pick two. At one point, I even asked if any of them didn’t want to be bridesmaids but all replied (very sweetly) “of course I’d love to be a bridesmaid but if you don’t want me to then I understand.” Eventually, I realised that to not have my sisters was just not an option. I love them dearly and to not have them by my side would feel wrong and heartless. But do I just have my sisters? Maybe it would have been simpler to leave it at that, maybe even easier but I’m a girls girl and it felt wrong not to ask a few of my best friends.
I don’t have a huge group of friends. I pick and choose them very carefully so every single one of them is special to me. How many is too many bridesmaids? How can I choose my bridesmaids without leaving anyone out? I can’t have everyone, that would be silly but I don’t want to have any regrets so I’ve decided on having 8. I have ummed and ahhed and ummed and ahhed about how many to ask. Seb keeps saying to me that I’m asking the whole world to be my bridesmaid. He keeps pointing to people on the street and saying “do you want to ask her to be your bridesmaid as well?” But the fact of the matter is that there are still some really important people to me who I haven’t asked and won’t be asking. It doesn’t mean that I don’t love them but I have my reasons (number one being that I already have a million bridesmaids and don’t think I could cope having any more.)
There’s a fine line between having everyone you want as a bridesmaid and having too many that you feel overwhelmed. Everyone’s numbers are different. Mine is 8. I was initially going to have 6 but I didn’t want to have any regrets for the sake of a bouquet (I’m being so so mean and making my girls buy their own dresses, sorry!)
The fact of the matter is that I’ve chosen my bridesmaids based on what feels right and it’s been one of the hardest decisions of my life. But every single person invited to my wedding is so important to me. I think deciding on my bridesmaids is going to be the hardest decision of the whole wedding and that’s saying something!
Love, Anna xox