Arguably, one of the most important aspects in the build up to the wedding & something that can either help you immensely or cause you a heck load of extra hassle is the bridal party. The decision of who to ask is a tough one (I’ve written all about it in “Bridesmaids, Bridesmaids & More Bridesmaids” but once you decide who you want to bestow the honour upon, how do you ask them?
I had so many ideas: personalised wine glasses, little hampers of goodies with a note or piece of jewellery, t-shirts, one of my friends even asked her bridal party using little notes in tiny bottles (super cute!) In the end I asked in three different ways.
Method 1 (asking my maid of honour): I decided very early on that really the only option for my maid of honour would be my twin sister. Initially, I was going to ask her using a personalised champagne glass. However, whilst browsing Not On the Highstreet I came across the perfect plan, or so I thought.. a very plain mug with “will you be my maid of honour?” written in tiny letters on the inside.
I remember being so excited. Foolproof. Katie, my twin, often goes through phases of giving up alcohol but I have never EVER known her to give up tea.
I think I invited her over to my house 3 times in one week to try and give her the blasted mug. But with no success. It turns out this mug was not the only mug, no, I was being made a mug of too. The one time she did come over she didn’t want a hot drink! In the end it took a cunning plan, involving my mother throwing away her freshly made cup of tea “by accident” and me bringing her a fresh one in the new mug.
Luckily, after all this effort, she cried tears of happiness. If she hadn’t I might have had to take the mug back to give it to someone else!
Method 2 (asking the rest of my bridal party): Paying for a wedding is expensive so unfortunately I couldn’t buy everyone their own mug (and there was no way I was going through that drama again!) so for the rest of my bridal party I chose/made each of them an individual card that reflected their personality. I would have loved to get them all a little hamper of goodies but with 7 bridesmaids (not including my MoH,) 3 flower girls and a page boy it just wasn’t possible. Instead I went for the thoughtful but doesn’t break the bank approach!
*I apologise for the language of the following card..*
Method 3 (the spontaneous method): One of my bridesmaids moved to Bristol just before I started planning the wedding properly and so I ended up asking her in a very spontaneous way at our Engagement party.
I think the strategy of “what do you think of this caption for our beautiful Snapchat?” was used.
For the life of me, I do not know why I do such cringey things but at least it’s a story to tell!
So there you have it, how I asked my girls (and boy) to be by my side on the most important day of my life. The perfectionist in me wishes I’d done it all on-theme, wrapped in Instagram worthy little ribbons but I did it with love and have a couple of little stories to tell along the way.
How did you ask your bridal party? I’d love to hear your stories.
Love, Anna xox
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